My mother lives in Texas and since my younger brother also lives in Texas, he has a power of attorney. He has managed to ruin last Christmas and now this Christmas because he so desperately wants to put her in a house with four other women where she would be in a room with one other woman and just sit there and wait to die. She has a 2800 square foot house and she wants to stay in her house. She now has help two half days a week and the woman who helps her prepares meals and leaves them in individual portions, does her laundry and ironing, washes and rolls Mother's hair and gives her manicures. Mother has another group of people who come in to clean the house. Mother is very happy with this arrangement but my brother is determined to move her out of the house. Mother and I talked about this and she wants to stay in her house. If she does have to leave there at some point, she wants to go to Carillon where several of her friends have lived and where she will have people with whom to play cards and dominos, participate in exercise programs, seasonal programs, etc. My mother has the money to afford either of those kinds of care. I feel like my brother's sole motivation is to have as much of her money left as possible when she dies. I feel like the money is hers, she earned it, and if every dime of it is spent on her, that is as it should be. He just keeps on about moving her and I have no idea how to protect her since I do not have a power of attorney or any kind of authority. Although my brother does not really do all that much for her, he does buy her groceries once a week and bring them over (she has given him a credit card). He also takes her to Dr. appointments. I have told her that she can just call the grocery store once a week and for $10, they will pick out whatever is on the list and bring it to the house. Also, Caroline, the lady who works for Mother, could take her to her Dr.'s appointments and then the doctor could send a report to her so that all of us know how she is doing. She feels so dependent on my brother because he is the only one in the same town that she is willing to go along with anything he wants. She even told me that he took her Medicare card and her supplemental insurance card and keeps them in his wallet. I told her that she needs to get those back because if something happened to her at the house (she has one of those Life Alert things that she wears around her neck), she might not be able to get treatment or her treatment might be delayed. At Christmas last year, my brother bought my mother one of those lift chairs (out of Mother's money) and my niece wanted the old chair that Mother used to sit in. My brother's wife said that Mother should not let anything leave her house because they were going to sell it all in an estate sale. Mother also said at Christmas that she wanted each of the grandchildren to go through her house and pick one thing that would remind them of her. My sister-in-law again said "No, we are going to have an estate sale." Mother's will used to state that she wanted to leave $10,000 to each of her grandchildren and my brother took her to the lawyer's office and told the lawyer to take the grandchildren out of the will. Also, we had a brother who died in 2008 and Mother had her will fixed where if one of her children died, their children would receive the inheritance. My brother got my deceased brother's family completely removed from the will. I am really not concerned about the will except that it shows how much control he has over her. My concern is for my mother. She has always been a wonderful mother to all of us and I just can't believe that my brother would try to put her in a place that would crush her spirit and depress her to death.