I cannot keep up on everything around here. Monday thru Friday I am the sole caretaker. On weekends my husband pitches in some. I am exhausted, depressed, have anxiety now and my health is failing. I know the typical answer everyone gives, is put him in a home. I don't think my husband takes me seriously enough. This is too much for me. My house stinks like urine, I have lost my only living room. I spend most of my time in the bedroom now. We have a 3 bedroom house and a den. My 19 yo son sleeps there. My 17 yo son has one room and my 10 yo son is in the other one. I would give up that room(10 yo) but my FIL insist in sleeping in the living room either on the couch or in a recliner. He has ruined both of them because he leaks thru his diaper. He is up peeing all night long. If he uses his urinal he ends up peeing on the floor. He never makes it in the toilet either. I have to dress him, bathe him and make his coffee and meals. He Pretty much does not do anything for himself except feed himself. So on top of all this when he came to live with us so did my BIL(He is Developmentally Delayed but High Functioning). He didn't want to live alone. There is just no room for everyone and I am going crazy. I just wish I knew what to do in lessening the load and keeping the house cleaner and smelling fresher. Or is there anything I can do about him leaking thru his diaper. He does have dimentia. I have struggled with that because he can be intensly mean and combative. Basically our life is turned upside down and sideways, and on hold. I feel like there is no end. Or, like there is no goal or something to look forward to. We are just at a stand still. What do I do???? I hope this makes sense!
Thanks for reading,