My husband (the oldest of 4 sons) is POA and administer of his family trust. One of the middle sons age 56 has already borrowed $60,000. The will has noted he has rc'd an advance. He is now asking to "borrow" more funds (at least $35,000). He has never held a steady job and has twice been in rehab. He does nothing to help with her care or upkeep of the family home despite living 40 mins away. My husband has told him that that MIL (age 85) does not have money to loan/give away and also if she needed medicaid at some point the 5 year look back policies make it so she / the family trust cannot give him money. How do we, along with the two other brothers, prevent this middle brother from pressuring her to change her will, POA and and give him money? Family trust currently list my husband as the administer, but it is still under MIL SS#. We were recently told we need to get an separate tax id # for the trust. My husband and youngest brother are hoping to arrange a meeting with the elder law attorney my mother has used. Thank you in advance for your sage advice - I know it is coming.