Can I prevent my brother's girlfriend from moving in with Dad who has Alzheimer's?

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I have power of attorney for my parents. and my Dad has Alzheimer's.I have POA for my parents. and my Dad has Alzheimers. My brother moved in temporarily while he sells his house and looks for a new one. This caused my Dad to have nightly hallucinations which we now have under control with meds. No my brother wants to move his girlfriend in and I'm afraid it will have a negative affect on my Dad and make us increase his meds. My Dad has stated he doesn't want my brother to live there anymore and he doesn't want the girlfriend moving in. Since I have POA can I block him from moving his girlfriend in?

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No one knows why ny brother did i ass backwards. My guess is he wanted to be here when my Dad died and he would then sweet talk my Mom into changing her will to keave thw house to him. He's very greedy. As for my parents downsizing, they want ro remain in there house and I have been helping take care of it. That's not a problem. My brother's selfishness is. The fact that he says he will move his girlfriend in against my Dad's wishes is a perfect example.
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Susie, just curious why your brother isn't living in his own house until it goes to settlement? Most people do that unless they are being relocated with their work to another area. He can also sell his house contingent of him finding a new place to purchase.

As for your parents, maybe it is time for them to downsize [I know, easier said then done], it would make it much easier on your Mom as she will have her hands full taking care of your Dad as his Alzheimer's progresses. She wouldn't be able to take of him plus take care of a house.
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My Mom lives their and my Dad is still ok. They are fine by themselves with me checking in daily. I had to buy a locking pill dispenser since my brother can't be bothered and it works great. If my Dad gets agitated my Mom calls me since my brother just upsets my Dad. I'm afraid I will have to call the police ti get him out as he says he will move his girlfriend in as he owns a third of the house (not really until both parents are dead). He refuses to believe that change affects my Dad's health because that upsets his plan to luve rent free. He doesn't want to have to rent a place until he buys a house. He's very swlfish and thinkshe somehow deserves special treatment. He won't ask what my Dad wants because he knows my Dad will say no. He gives a sob story to my Mom so she will say yes. I feel we should honor Dad's wishes, but how do you get someone to understand when they haveaelfish motives and anger management issuess?
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Often the best care for people with dementia, both living at home and in facilities is routine driven. Routine provides a sense of security- they know either consiously or subconsciously what comes next. Having your brother living with your father and possibly the girlfriend too - is/will most likely throw off your fathers routine - especially if your brother doesn't know/understand dementia. Explain this to your brother as best you can and give him a date to be moved out by. Add that under no circumstances is he to bring his girlfriend to the house to live. However - the first reply does bring up a good point - without your brother there, who is looking after your father? While it could come down to the lesser of evils - is having your brother there better than no one?
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I guess the legal question comes down to whether Dad can still make decisions for himself. It can be a gray area where folks are cognitive but have no executive reasoning any longer. My Dad is like that and Mom is getting there. I handle all the finances but I have to be a little sneaky.

If one of my relatives approached my folks with a story about needing a place to stay they would probably feel pressured to allow it. If I were to get wind of it before hand I would confront the relative in no uncertain terms and try to keep them out in any way I can. I put a stop to a relative dumping his kids off on my parents who are mid eighties. He's a good person but I told him I would not allow this.
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susie, are you living there, too? Is anyone other than your brother staying there? If your dad doesn't want your brother and girlfriend there, and if you don't want the girlfriend there, I think the answer is a simple one. The big question is if your father has anyone else with him.
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