My husband and I live 800 miles away from my parents. We have decided to sell our home and go live at my parent's home. We realize it will be a major change and I want to get as informed as possible to what to expect.
My mother recently went through lung cancer operation and chemo, which she quit half way due to her feeling too sick to continue. The flying back and forth was becoming very expensive and my father just can't seem to handle all the pressure involved. My dad is 77 and mom is 75. What I have noticed is that they are both becoming forgetful. Also my mom seems to be in a somewhat depressed/angry/violent at times mood. She is making a habit of leaving the house and disappearing for many hours when she gets upset and consequently we worry like crazy. I always said I would take care of them and I am happy that my husband is supportive and willing to make this move. We are childless and my only other brother (he was a quadriplegic for 18 years, due to an accident) died 2 years ago. Helping to take care of him, I realize how much work there was to be done and how demanding people can become. What I see/hear mostly is the difficutly involved with living and taking care of aging parents, is there some stories where things work out relatively well? Or should I re-think about moving into the house with them? My mom doesn't drive and doesn't speak english very well either and always depends on my dad to do everything except cook/clean house unless she's too sick.