Hubby is planning to retire next year (age 65) or any time after that. He is completely burned out with work and life. He has had some pretty epic health issues in the past, and I have been there, caring for him through every single one. (HepC, Liver Cancer, Liver Transplant, Post-op INfections, 84 weeks of GRUELING chemo, a nearly life-ending motorcycle wreck and finally, (hooray!) TX for the hepC which worked.) He is as healthy as he is going to be, yet he chooses to sleep for 3-4 days per week. I mean, he still gets his 40+ hours in, but sleeps all weekend, every weekend for the last 10 years. Also usually takes a day in the week and sleeps all day. He literally eats all meals in bed, even when he has worked and could sit at the table with me for 10 minutes, he takes his food in the bedroom and turns on the TV and eats there. I ask what he wants to do in retirement and he says "sleep, just sleep". And I think he will do it, too. I'm no saint, but I have taken care of him for the last 40 years as a wife and the last 10 as a nurse. I am burned out taking care of him. I don't understand how he can work a demanding "mental" job (it's not physically hard) and then crash for up to 72 hours at a stretch. I still run the house, work PT and do all the stuff he can't/won't do to run our home. I am lonely and very depressed as he chooses to watch TV over having time with me. Retirement terrifies me. He says "Hey, you're retiring too--" but anybody knows a woman who has been a SAHM NEVER gets to retire, nor do I want to. I', sick, sick, sick, of caring for a man who won't even get up to get an ibuprofen when he has a headache! Nothing I suggest sounds like fun to him--any time I bring up what his plans are, he just says to leave him alone and let him sleep. I'm incredibly discouraged by this. Anybody else have this situation?? I am tired, too, and having him home 24/7 will increase my workload a lot. He doesn't do anything around the house. I do love him but don't love this situation. I'm putting this up in "caregiver Burnout" because I have been caring for him for so long and I AM burned OUT!