We moved my mom (90 yrs old) into our home in April, as she needed more support & moving in with us (after selling her home) was the only solution she was willing to agree to. Once she started living with us we realized that she was in far worse shape than we had anticipated. The doctor confirmed there's some cognitive decline in play. Well, probably no surprise to anyone of you but she's continued to decline in that respect & we're expecting an official dementia diagnosis at her next exam (early January). Mom had me rather late in life. I'm in my early 40's with no siblings & my father passed away in 1999. Mom's had a VERY rough week this week. Yesterday she couldn't work the television without assistance (despite the simplified remote with only 5 buttons on it). Then she kept unplugging her reading lamp & then getting upset that it wouldn't turn on. That was followed by an inability to figure out her favorite handheld Solitaire machine. It's no surprise to anyone of us that a day like that would be very frustrating. But the problem is that as her struggles are ramping up she's blaming us more and more for these challenges. She's convinced the television needs to be replaced, the fridge is broken (she can't seem to understand how to open the fridge door anymore), etc. The hostility she's been throwing our way this week is off the charts. We have a young family in the home (eldest is 9) & her displaced frustrations really did a number on our Christmas holiday. Hubbie & I tried so hard to give her a great Christmas and the result is that we're in the midst of Day 3 days of a massive passive aggressive silent treatment from her (aside for making rude, backhanded comments & slamming her bedroom door in our faces). This week is our first week off as a family since July, so no one is happy about her behavior and even the kids are upset and want grandma to move back to her own home. In preparations for that appointment in early January, I've emailed the doctor all our observations of her cognitive decline per the doc's request and I've included comments on my concerns about her remaining in the house long term. I'm going to request a social worker asap and I have a few facilities in mind that I intend to set up appointments to visit after the holiday week. Anything I'm missing? Any useful lessons learned from you folks that we should keep in mind? I had really hoped this would work out for awhile but she clearly has challenges that we're not equipped to manage long term & the entire house is walking on egg shells 24/7 trying not to piss off grandma all the time. That is no way for especially the kids to live. The more support and assistance we give her, the angrier and ruder she is to everyone. She's started to complain about our pets (2 dogs and a cat) and so this morning the kids are all upset thinking she'll make us get rid of their pets (that will NOT happen). It's simply not working out. I want her out of the house.