I am trying to make a list of questions I need to ask my parents before it's too late, like where are their checkbooks, their savings accounts, stock brokers, safe deposit box, an updated will, do they have a power of attorney, etc.
What are their final wishes, since the only clue I have is that they want to be buried out the mid-west... ok, we really need to narrow that down....
Do they want to be on life-support or any other medical request?
If they become unable to care for themselves at a later date, do they want to move to assistant living or have a *professional* caregiver come to the home? Notice, I am not an option on that question.
Just wondering if there is a website, or even on this website, a form with a list of all the important questions that a grown child needs to have *that talk* with their parent(s). Actually talking to my Dad isn't working as he gets too distracted, but I think he will pay attention to filling out a form and talking it over with Mom.
GardenArtist, I appreciate the offer. Couple weeks ago I got email from the attorney and 24 pages to fill out... OMG it's like doing homework ;)
Vegaslady, my significant other has a nice balance of both male and female professionals, he does notice that the female doctors tend to listen better.
Assandache7, my significant other and I have an appointment with an Elder Law Attorney to get our wills and trusts updated, get Power of Attorney for ourselves, and ask what we need to do regarding my parents, such as having POA for them. I hope I can get my parents to meet with this attorney, she expensive, has a outstanding resume. My parents might want someone else as they are from the old school and would prefer a male attorney.... [sigh]
assandache7, I do plan to get an Elder Law Attorney, but getting my parents to go to such an Attorney might be easier said then done. At least with the list, I have something to go by, and not standing there like a deer in headlights once one or both do pass on.
(This is the call number on the book...if your library uses the same filing system as mine....HG179, S66 2008.). Good Luck with "The Talk".