Is person with POA & MPOA responsible for arranging for EVERYTHING related to parent's care?

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I have both POA and MPOA for a parent who has dementia & continues to live alone. Am I responsible for arranging for EVERYTHING related to Mom's care? For example, ensuring house is stocked with groceries & paper products (toilet paper, etc.) , parent has clean clothing (not soiled or ripped undergarments), house is cleaned, medications are timely renewed, doctor appointments, arranging for aides, etc. I don't think so & want my other siblings to do their share. I also don't think they should be paid to do it, even though Mom has plenty of money, as it might be needed in the future as her care needs increase. Yes, they come down 2-3 days a week & are paid to be there with Mom; however, I don't think they should be paid anything extra for grocery shopping or fixing a sink leak or trimming bushes or anything else like that. Am I out of line or are they?

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If they do those chores while they are there getting paid to watch Mom then no extra payment. Try to coordinate the times!

FYI: Her care needs are increasing and the money is being used for that now..
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If all siblings are participating equally in her care and are part of ongoing discussions/decisions, then perhaps no to being paid. If, however, it is just you and only some of the siblings participating in her care, then time is money and all Involved should be paid for time they spend on Mom's care. My understanding is MPOA involves ensuring the care and well being of the person. You can only pick and choose what you will be paid to do and what you will pay others to do. Decent people might help out of love, eventually harboring resentment because others are off scott free enjoying their lives.
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I don't agree with siblings. You are not out of line. The legal papers really have nothing to do with whether or not your siblings help with your mother's care. As far as not helping without being paid....decent people would help out of love...not because there is something in it for them. It is the responsibility of ALL the siblings to make sure Mom is safe and well cared for. That won't happen if it is all left up to you...........proper care for an elderly parent cannot be handled by one person. I'm sorry you have such selfish siblings. Good Luck!
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I think you are being out of line. Sounds like you want the authority but not the responsibility. If you had a paid caregiver coming in, wouldn't you have to pay that person for all those extras? I even wonder if that person would do the sink fixing or bush trimming or anything else outside the realm of their patient's actual care. Your responsibilities are to make sure Mom is safe and well cared for, and that includes a fully-stocked pantry, clean clothing, a house that isnt dirty, steps/driveway are clean of snow if you live in an area of the country where it snows, etc. After all, isn't that why your parents made sure they had money this late in life? For their care and well being? Sorry, I agree with the siblings.
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