My 82 yr old mother, with quickly onsetting dementia, is about to sign over her PofA to people she believes she can trust as they have been her "local family" and caregiver for years. But one son is also a manipulator and has been in a sick fantasy relationship (on her part) whereby she has been depleting her savings (giving to him for this or that) and she will soon be down to her monthly pension.
Yes, we have always been close but a recent diagnosis set off further dementia, increasing the "relationship" with the son and I am now the daughter who wants to "put her away".....words I'm sure from his mouth.
My question is this: son is also the heir to her estate (something my brother and I have learned to accept for years...no legal recourse). Estate will be her home.
Is there a clause I, as her daughter, could ask her atty to consider including (for my mom's protection) in the PofA document, which requires PofA to use her assets to pay for her healthcare while she's alive? Previously she and I had always discussed it might be a possibility that the house might need to be sold to pay for healthcare - in whatever form that might be. Now, with the PofA being the heir, I see conflict. It is also possible that Mom will assign son's mom as primary and him secondary. But case would be the same, I believe.
Please help. Thank you.