Does the holder of a POA have any obligation to provide periodic reports to their siblings concerning their plans for the grantors care?

That's only a part of the law having to do with poa. Other sections list duties/responsibilities, etc. As for what I do, that's none of your business.

Mi sento come se questi messaggi sono confinanti sul forum rabbia!

What do you mean---you gave me the benefit of the doubt? I don't owe you a thing, nor am I looking for your approval. This is a forum on a poa question. I gave an answer that, despite differing laws in different states, should be helpful to some. You claimed to know what all 50 states' laws don't mention, which implies that you know all of the laws in all of the states. Unlikely. Why argue the information I've put out there? I gave helpful info; if you don't want to use it, don't use it. if you don't live in Virginia, what does Virginia law matter to you?

Translation, please, for those of us who don't speak the language??

And I don't think ALH is a professor, certainly not an attorney as he doesn't phrase issues as an attorney would.

This thread is getting better than some of those silly day-time programs where people fight with each other.

I wouldn't consider discussion rage, just because you gave misinformation. It's one thing to express sympathy and another to give information. I don't believe in giving false info to make someone feel better. My point is, as it always has been, to let people know that having a poa does not give you ultimate, unquestionable authority.

It means-I feel like these postings are bordering on forum rage!

I am not arguing with you. You stated in one of your postings "In most states, the POA must retain all records of all transactions, and if an interested party requests it, the POA must furnish that info to the. interested party." Your exact words. I was my mother's DPOA, bless her departed soul, and no where in that 8 page document was there anything written that I am required to furnish documents to interested parties. This DPOA was drawn up by her Estate Attorney. If it was law,it would have had to be stated in the instrument.

I was not trying to be condenscending when I mentioned the college or your profession. I was sincere. I will stay out of your postings. Sorry I caused you to have to defend yourself in your postings.

Reread the original question and realized the poster was asking about POA for medical not financial. How things can change with post after post.

No matter the wording on a DGPOA, and despite it not being mentioned in document, the agent is still expected to keep records and produce them if / when asked.

With an advance directive / medical poa, I would still keep all records. Not keeping records could render you powerless or unable to defend yourself if improprieties are suggested.

alh123, I was my mother's health care proxy. I had to use it when she went into the hospital due to a broken hip from a fall. She was living independently when this happened. After her surgery she was placed on a ventilator. Due to her having COPD , they could not wean her off the ventilator. I had to make the difficult decision on her behalf to take her off the ventilator and let nature takes it's course. She died two hours later. She did have a health care directive about her end of life care and what she wanted. What records could I possibly keep, that would protect me from what would be considered improprieties? I was not powerless in making an informed decision on her behalf and the medical examiner ruled it an accident. Should I request a copy of the medical examiners report to coincide with her death certificate? Should I request copies of her hospital records? Being an heir of her estate, I would not want to be accused of causing her a premature death to collecting on an inheritence. I am also her Executor. Any advice?

Debralee, if that's what her advance directive said and you abided by her wishes, then that should be enough. If the doctors indicated they did not think they could ever get her off the ventilator and she had ruled against a tracheostomy and long term vent support, then doing anything else would have been incorrect.

Stop bickering. It is not helping anyone.

Jimm6747... getting back to your original issue.. has this thread helped you at all get some clarity? Got a little hijacked along the way, but. I hope you have got what you need from it. Best of luck.
(I must remind my dad how lucky he is that 5 of the 6 of us still live fairly local to them!)
Is your MIL happy where she is? I guess that is the critical question.
Very sad that none of you live near to her for visits.

I never thought that I had to give updates because I thought my siblings trusted me. Boy was I wrong. At the time of signing of my parent's POA, I asked both my parents if they trusted me and they both said they did and that's why they asked for my help in the first place. One of my money hungry siblings, didn't like the idea. I didn't know he was money hungry until he asked my mother if he could take care of her bills -- nothing else, just the bills. When she said "no" he got p*ssed off. I took care of everything including the bills and anything they need. This sibling did nothing to help my parents. Didn't visit them at home or call them and I was with them for about 8 to 12 hours and 7 days a week. There is much more to this situation, but I know that you know what I'm saying. My parents have since passed away and now I'm being called a thief. What did he do to help -- nothing. Anytime any of my siblings would call me to find out about our parents, I would answer their questions, but they chose to believe what they wanted to believe anyway. I did what I thought was right and I had one brother that had my back, who was the second POA. Nobody calls him a thief. Nobody asked him for anything. I believe it would have been worse for me to have meetings and explain what was going on because I would have been met with opposition on a regular basis and if I asked them for help they would replied minimally. This opposition would definitely impede my care for my parents. I work well and quicker alone and get things done. My parents were always grateful for what I did for them until the day they passed away and that makes me happy.