My brother has been stealing money from my mom's money market and credit accounts over 2 years, was supposedly the POA. I confronted him and now we're in the process of finding out all the damage he did. He hasn't been forthcoming about any of her papers I've requested like wills, medical directive, POA. Turns out he never had the POA done 2 yrs ago when he put her in asst'd living. So we have legal and paperwork messes. He hired one of his town buddies to prepare the docs, a family law practitioner. This guy emails me as if I am some leech. He claims he will only send a copy of the dual power of attny, with me on it! to me if my mom agrees. He ignored my request to be put on speakerphone for the meetings, (I live 1500 miles away)
Tonight I finally wrote this asshole an email telling him how much I handle for my mom, and that I am wading thru financial messes my brother created for our mom's finances. I wish I could drop the bombshell of how many actions by my brother qualify as felonies, but I am waiting patiently to see how to approach this. Plus I want that POA completed so I have a legal document.
Have any of you gotten the 'distrust lawyer ego/attitude' when another family member deals with the legal stuff, yet you're trying to get equal inclusion in the process, knowing the other sibling has actually committed offenses?
Other Elder Law attnys in my brother's state/town have quoted 5,000 retainers to start a case. Hah, as if I can afford that on my SSDI income. feeling screwed.
This is draining me so much....