My parents had all 4 children put as Healthcare POAs in order by oldest first. My mother was hospitalized last year for 2 weeks before her passing and the oldest (by law) wasn't keeping the other 3 informed or asking about decisions. Now we have had to place father in nursing facility and I'm afraid of the same thing happening. The oldest barely knows my father and I'm worried we will not be informed of decisions that may need to be made. Is there anything we can do??