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Can a POA over my Dad's health be used to force me to live with him?

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He gets dementia. He enduring POA over fathers health, does this require me to have to live permanently with him if he deteriorates from his present assisted living in his own home.

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By the way you've worded it, it seems like someone with POA wants you to move in with your dad. Someone else on this thread said the same thing. You don't need to do it.
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If the lawyer who did the original paperwork is also in Australia, he should be willing to clarify your options. legally just in a phone conference and that is what I would do first, since he would have notes from the meetings when setting up the original Power of Attorney.
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Your MPOA simply dictates to medical personnel what you believe your father would want in his dementia state. You do not have to live with him.
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You are not the first poster from down under who has posted about being pressured to provide continuing hands on care, best to protect yourself by refusing to allow them to discharge him under those circumstances. If you allow that kind of set up for even a few weeks it will become a precedent and it will be harder to extricate yourself in the future without accusations of abandonment. While the law may be on your side it seems that in actual practice there are some who have found themselves trapped by their own good intentions and the bullying tactic of your healthcare system.
Consult a lawyer. And come back and let us know what the lawyer says so we can know how to help others.
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I don't know how it works in Australia, but in the US they would not discharge someone who needed 24-hour care home without assurance of that care. Instead they would transfer the person to a Transitional Care Unit for the 8 - 12 weeks of recovery. They might try to bully a son or daughter or spouse or POA into providing the care at home, but they would have no legal authority to require it.
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I recently took out and enduring Power Of Attorney for
my Dad who is showing signs of dementia.
He broke his leg and is soon to come home with transitional care that lasts
about 8-12weeks.

One of the social workers at the hospital told me I would have to come to his
house every night to care for him because the transitional carers only come in
for 1hr a day for physio etc. and to help him to live at home again.
The hospital Drs have diagnosed him with sundowner syndrome but he
has been showing symptoms of alziemers for quite a while now.
They are keen to send him home and free up their beds.
When the social worker said I had to stay with him at night because I was the enduring Power of Attorney.
I got worried that legally the Enduring Power of Attorney could be legally used to force me to have to live with him.
Although I care about him and have been helping him with groceries and appts etc for a long time since Mum died I know I could not live with him as my head
often throbs after listening to him talk nonstop about the same stories over for hours.
Thank you everyone who has answered and put my mind at rest about that because I couldnt sleep worrying about it.
Although legal sites on Enduring Power Of Attorney here in Australia talk endlessly about the legalities and safeguards for people appointing Attorneys, they give very little advice to someone who holds the Enduring Power of Attorney
in respect to their legal rights as well
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You are joking, right? I don't know where you are located, but in the US slavery was abolished more than a century ago, and as far as I know it is not legal anywhere else, either.
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how old are you? Is someone with "POA" pressuring you to move in with your demented Dad? Get caught up reading stuff here, or consult an elder law attorney. No one can 'make' anyone move anywhere.
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Of course not. Medical POA just means that person can act on your father's behalf for medical decisions. He can't force you to do anything. He can, however, overrule your wishes regarding your father's medical treatment.

If the POA is trying to bully you into moving your father into your home or having you move into your father's home, I would question his motives. Why would he want you to live with your father instead of your father moving into a memory care community?
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You just have to be available to make decisions when necessary.
Even if he goes into AL a phone call will be all that they need to authorize treatment if and when needed.

My husband was in "respite" and I was out of the area. When treatment was needed they got hold of me and I authorized treatment. (they actually called my sister who I had also given authority to authorize treatment and she got hold of me ...all this.. for what I discovered later when I had computer access...Athletes Foot!!)
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