Is having DPOA for a stubborn and complacent mother worth the aggravation or should I concede to the alternate?

Labs, you do know that you cannot be forced to do any hands on care for your mother or to have her in your home, right? One idea mentioned on his forum is when she needs to go the emergency room, you refuse to take her home. It is an unsafe placement since your medical problems prevent you from doing any care and her home is not safe because of health hazards. The hospital social workers then find her a placement. An option is for her to become a ward of the state. Love her, but stand clear - no way can you or any non-professional fix the mess.