Long story short ....I typed a long post with every detail...but it disappeared when I tried to log in. My dad has Parkinson's and Dementia. Since Dec it has quickly progressed. My brother walked away after the firts of 5 hospitalizations. Said he couldn't handle it mentally or physically. He blocked our numbers and we haven't spoke to him since. He said he didn't want any part of it or anything from our dad if he passed. I am unable to work during the week bc I have to take care of my dad (although he is in the hospital at the moment) along with handling his finances, making sure his home is checked weekly, filing for VA benefits (bc he is a veteran). I feel like if I compensate myself that I would be taking his $$$ and I don't want to do that.... I have turned down two jobs this month alone, bc being a POA is a full time job in itself. Other than one cousin that my dad grew up with, we (my husband and I) have no one else to help us. We are at a crossroad now.....and had to make the decision on seeking assisted living. The dementia has progressed so much...the last admittance at the hospital, my dad thought I was his wife and that we were in a lawyers office & I was filing for a divorce. :( At the moment, my daddy knows me as his daughter again, but than can quickly change. I met with our family lawyer and she said I needed to compensate myself....but there again, I feel it's my job as his daughter to do and that I'd be wrong for paying myself to do this. But......I could really use the help as I'm only able to work on the weekends bc my husband works full time and can not help me with the things I have to do for my daddy. Can anyone give me some advice on this??