I am a POA that caregave for 4 years and now am asked to pay rent. What can I do?

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I share the POA with my Mom's step-son who has done nothing to help over the years and not even a card for Chrismas or her birthday. But has been bullying me ever since I moved back hom after 12 years on my own.
I moved home, as my biological Mom asked me personally to move home and help with things, as also I had seen her sliding down hill burning pots and taking her day and nite meds all in one shot, and the fact she had lost a lot of weight.
So I moved home 4 years ago and started helping out also she wished to help with university.
It ended up being a full-time job and had to quit a few job as she had been slipping further and needing me 24 hrs a day so my schooling was no more than 1 math class.
Now after putting off my life for 4 years, my Mom started waking up and phoning 911 and after a few to many calls I decided she was going to have to live in a assisted living seniors home.
I have had to get into quite a bit of debt not working at a paying job for long, but aleast my finacee has helped me little although she does not make much.
Anyway two months into her gone to home my half-brother who is POA is demanding we start paying $2000 in rent next month, plus $2000 in damage deposit. I lived most of my life in the home and it has no mortage and she has a very good sum of retirement money. The house is willed to me upon her death but he wishes me to step down as POA and pay rent or just pay rent, or rent out thehouse to some else or sell it..
I don't mind paying a little rent, but we cannot afford to live there at that amount and all her items would have to be stored or sold I guess.

3 years ago he tried to block me from putting in new carpet as the old carpet was 33 years old.
Do I have a ny say on the rent as he has done nothing but cause me and Mom to go through hell. She gave him and myself quite a bit when she sold a rental property about 13 years ago and this is what he does.
We also care for my Moms cat and has happened at the wrong time as I just have started a job and cannot afford even a small apartment right now, this does not seem right, What can I do ??

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The main sentence here is the house is willed to you. If you were to vacate it, it could be sold while your mother is still alive if you give up your POA and residency. It sounds to me that someone does not want you to have the house and is trying to trick you into letting him dispose of it before it is left to you in the will. Proceed with caution.
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My half brother shares POA and my Mom does not live there as of two months, but I she stays over most weekends and visits with us and her cat, so on those days we are her caregiver. Yes he has denied her from ever living again and visited her home here as we cannot afford the rent he is asking and will have to be rented out to someone else.
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You never got compensated for fulltime caring of your Mom I assume. You need to get an attorney as you aleady may own the house. good luck
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Since you share POA he can't do a darn thing without your agreement. Like, he can't charge you rent or sell the house. Why would you give up the POA role, and let him be in charge alone?

Your mother is in Assisted Living. It sounds like she has some cognitive issues. Is she well enough to make decisions? What does she want to happen to the house?

Your half-brother has no authority to collect rent from you. What did he intend to do with the money he collected? The only thing he could do legally is use it for your mother. Does she need it to stay in the ALF?
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I reread your message and see that you already share POA. Sorry for the confusion.
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BTW, you cannot give him POA. Only your mother can. You could only resign your own POA. There can be more than one POA for a person. I don't know what would happen if they can't agree on things if both had POA. That would be messy.
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From all I can tell, your brother does not own the house nor have POA. I am wondering what right he feels he has to charge you rent on the house. And why he wants the POA. I would watch out for him, because I have the feeling if you gave him POA, the house would be on the market fast. I do not know where you live or what your mother's financial status is, but if you are in the US, you have lived in the house long enough to protect it from Medicaid recovery if your mother needs financial assistance.

Who would you pay rent to? Your mother? This is a very ugly situation. I am always sorry when family relationships get like this. Anyway, don't let your brother bully you into something that he has no legal right to enforce.
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does your mother still live there and are still her caregiver?
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