Hi All - my 90 year old Mom has been in an ALF for a few months now (following a fall at home, hospital, short term care, then to the ALF). We had visited the ALF a number of times together, prior to her fall, and have a very favorable opinion. She is there, with her dog and her own furniture and wardrobe.
Here is the issue: Her short term memory is failing, and she is rapidly becoming mean and abusive. She will call me at night saying she just wants to come home (which is not an option anymore).
I feel, at times, that my visiting or calling too often is interfering with her adjusting to this new life, this new home. I used to visit 3-5 times a week, and call once a day, and be available if she calls me. Now I dread going, and I can't handle these night time calls anymore.....
Is it time to step back and not be so available?