Is it possible for the nursing home staff to delete the call log history to cover up the fact that they don't respond to residents' calls?

My 88 year old mom had to go to a nursing home for rehab after a hospital visit. I chose the best home I could find. I was terribly ill with a bad virus at the time and there was ice all over the interstate and county shut downs. I got a conference call regarding mom's care. She's fine. Everything is going well. I asked some medical questions about her and they couldn't answer them. Then I knew. As sick as I was, I drove on the icy interstate for an hour. Wrecks were everywhere. People were spinning into the concrete barriers. I got there. They lied about everything. I shut her door and began taking pictures. Three infected pressure sores. She sat in the same underwear and clothes for NINE DAYS straight. She never got a shower. Greasy hair. (The salon was supposed to do it. Never happened.) Her toilet was broken and full of you know what. (Because of her memory loss, she had no idea she was being mistreated.) One of the nosy staff came in the room without knocking. I said "Get out, we're having a private financial meeting." Since I'm the POA, they had no choice. I called Medicare on my cell phone, not through their switchboard, and told them the situation and that I was removing her. The guy who took my call cried when I told him why and the details. She also had a lump in her neck that had come up and it was never reported to me. They did absolutely nothing for her. I called her lawyer and he said I couldn't remove her without a medical release or I could be arrested. I said "Wanna bet?" I called a security expert. "Come now." I had no coat or suitcase for her because I had no idea she was this bad. He brought a suitcase. This man is scary looking. Very intimidating. That's the point of a bodyguard. They let him right into her room while I was down the hall getting a bottle of Coke even though she had a specific visitors list. They didn't even ask his name. We moved and we moved fast. I grabbed all her things and threw them in the suitcase. Magazines, snacks, a closet full of clean clothes, socks and underwear they never put on her. Everything was flying and I kept an eye on the door while he put a hoodie on her. She looked like the oldest rapper on the planet. We smuggled her out of there. I did not sign her out. Yes, the lump was cancer. I got her the finest oncology team. How do I know? Because they are MY oncology team. Yes, this is a true story. No nursing home, ever. She's staying with me.

I am certain that they can delete everything and anything... when my Mom was in a NH, she had often complained about this..so what I would do, is I found out there turn around time and tested it at random. When they did not come in that turn around time I would be at the Nurses station challenging their lousy system and that I was tired of their excuses. This led to a meeting and when they found out they were being 'policed', the situation improved. NH facilities (and ALF) 'bank on' families trusting they do what they say they will do. Sometimes this is the case but all too often it is not the case and family members have to show they are watching and speak up. Good luck to you and your loved one!

Every state has an Ombudsman. All that you see wrong should be reported to this office. That being said, if I saw gross neglect of my Dad in his NH, out he would go. I had 2 instances that I had to address. One was the weekend nurse put him to bed too early. 6 at night. Got him up at 8 the next morning. Dad had dinner at 4 and had no snack since he was put to bed at 6. He's also an aspiration risk. I confronted the nurse myself that evening. Next day I confronted the Director of Nursing. Then the Director of the facility. Dad will not be put to bed early again! Next incident with the same nurse.....Dad had dirtied his diaper. The rule is that he be taken from the activity room to the nurses station for care. I asked the young volunteer to take him. 2 minutes later he was back. Too busy to change him. Ok......an hour later they came to get him for bed. Had no clue that I was there. Dad sat in his dirty smelly diaper for over an hour. Next day was meeting day once again! I never go at the same time....they never know when I'll show up. Dad is always well cared for, but in the 2 instances I mentioned it was the same weekend nurse that messed up. He won't mess up again. Would I take Dad out if there? In a heartbeat! At almost 97 years old, I would rather take steps to improve his care there rather than move him elsewhere and confuse him even more. I think the key is to be proactive in their care and let the NH know that you're aware of the problems and don't hesitate to speak up and/or call the Office of the Ombudsman. It sure ain't easy!

I filed all the reports. Nothing was done. There's been a cover up. Yes. I have proof. I went through channels and it got me nowhere. Mom is safe and I, too, am battling cancer. I consulted several doctors. They said they see it all the time in patients and they are sickened by it. I am not well enough to wage a protracted losing battle.

Yeah...but the NH of today are soooo much better than the past? Yeah. This sort of thing (which is really common) is why Mom will never be in one.

This would be so disturbing! What is the next level of authority on this, is this NH singly, privately owned, or is it part of a corporation? If the first, I'd write to the chief administrator or board of directors, if the latter contact a regional head. I'd stay clear that you are concerned for all the residents and their overall operations, you are helping them identify a gap that they should thank you for. If that comes up zero, of course you'd want to move your loved one if possible and if not contact an elder law, county, or business attorney? It would help to get a copy of what they say their procedures are.

LadyMiller, I would have done the same. I worked in one and the person responsible for the staff's actions are the Director of Nursing, the attending doctor and the NH Administrator.

If you get them involved along with your Ombudsman, they WILL straighten up. Hope this helps others, but once they are investigated they tow the line.....at least for a little while

I wish you would have told the Director and staff you were calling the phone company to come out and check out the "problem". I never had a problem with the staff and director at my mom's facility but I do know how frustrating it is when you don't get an answer. For the longest time we had the same Director and staff but gradually they started leaving and new would come in. Finally Brookdale came in and bought it out and things just were never the same. Thankfully I was able to visit at any given notice and for 7 years the same wonderful nurse and nurses aid were there and looked after her along with many other patients. It wasn't horrible care from the aids but there was definitely something different. Just glad it's over for her. Good Luck and God Bless everyone....

I know for a fact, depending on the system, it is possible to see the history of call bells and responses. Also, I am sure this data can be "accidentally" lost or deleted.

Keep good notes on everything and take lots of pictures of anything that seems of the ordinary. Check your loved one - head (yes, check the scalp) to toe - including the private areas - for skin issues/neglect/abuse - and take photos. NH and SNFs are the worst - they lie and will manipulate staff notes - to their advantage and conveniently forget to write something down when it's not in their favor. I learned the realities of - all types of care - when I was going in and out of the healthcare system with my father. There is a thread of evil in all areas of our healthcare system. No joke. Because of what happened to my father, my mother will never go into a NH. People think I'm a martyr for the elderly...Um...no...it's just that I'm terrified of what may happen if I put her in a home - based on what actually happened to my father!