Mom is 88 and had a fall two and a half years ago, during which she hit her forehead hard enough to cause two large hematomas on her forehead and fractured her neck, requiring surgery and a month and a half in the ICU, same amount of time in a "mini" hospital/rehab, then the same amount of time in an SNF/rehab. In the ICU, she had a code blue but heart never stopped. They had to do a tracheostomy and a stomach tube for feeding.
I live in California and she was in Ohio. I rushed there and spent the entire time with her in all the facilities. She had home health for about a month and did better with that than the rehab (comfort of home). In the beginning, much confusion and agitation (meds, I'm sure). After all tubes out and she could eat real food, she could not remember the recent past (like the accident, where she was living, things like 9/11, etc. Remembered all of her immediate family and close friends.
I brought her home to California with me. Got her hooked up with my doctor, who recommended other specialists (heart doctor, hearing, etc). All her results were excellent for her age. Forgot to mention she has severe osteoarthritis in both knees, elbows and a frozen shoulder. So she uses a walker and wheelchair when it's too far for her to walk.
A few weeks ago, she had blood when she had a bowel movement. Took her doctor who checked for hemorrhoids , and found none. Said take her to the ER. Seen by Gastroenterologist who wanted a Colonoscopy. Did this and he found Cancer. Surgery done about three weeks ago and that went very, very well. However, her Electrolytes took a nosedive and they had to pump her full of potassium, sodium and iron (she developed anemia). She was in and out of sleep every day and having "semi hallucinations". She had no pain from the surgery, so she wasn't taking pain meds after the first day.
After ten days brought her home. Befor this she was (with my help) washing herself, coloring in adult coloring books and able to go out an sit on the porch and enjoy fresh air, the birds and squirrels. We talked about her past which she remembers quite well. She still knows her family and friends, but she is still having some hallucinations - not realizing she's at home, or thinks there are or have been people here when that hasn't happened. Still very weak and not wanting to do the things she used to.
Sorry for writing a novel. I wasn't concerned before as except for the arthritis, she seemed to be getting better. I guess my question is, has anyone else experienced this or something similar and what have you done? Don't tell me she needs to be in some type of facility, as that is not something I am willing to do, unless she develops full blown Alzheimer's.