I admit I am whining, but it has been a bruising day winding up to a really demoralising dinner. Mother is going to respite care for a week tomorrow. I was trying to psych her up ready to have a good time, by discussing what she likes doing or might like to try. Nothing, apparently. So what used she to like? She'd 'have to think about that.' It emerges that her memory of not just recent but past times in general extends to one daughter (out of four children, not including me, "the housekeeper") and one granddaughter (out seven g/children, and she's been living with us for the last six weeks). Since January 1st, she's attended her sister's funeral, her grandson's wedding, two major birthday parties, five book club meetings and a variety of social occasions. She remembers not one. Nothing. She says "it's been a nice peaceful time."
So, remind me, all this effort to keep her active and engaged is… for what? How is she benefitting? What's WRONG with letting her melt slowly into her recliner if that's really what she wants?