ok, i know i posted before, but i need people to know the truth so i can see if i am the only one who has dealt with this. my grandma, all her life, has gravitated to those who 'need' her. this means that she cannot think anyone loves her unless they need her help, or that she can't show her love any other way than by giving in to her family's stupid demands, no matter how ridiculous. when she was younger, she gave in to everything my mom wanted, going so far as to allow my mom to steal my gma's syringes (that she needed for her b12 injections) to use for meth. my mom stole gma's wedding rings, and gma still didn't call the cops, this was when i was under the age of 18. now i am 30, and my grandma is being financially exploited. my just-turned-18 year old sister has been getting gma to pay for her horse board, buy new horses, pay for vet care and everything else that goes with owning three horses since she was 14. if gma only had $50 left after paying for everything, and my sister wanted a new pair of sneakers even though she had numerous pairs, she would get gma to buy them for her even though they had no food money for the rest of the month. my uncle is even worse. he is 49 and has lived with my gma and been supported by her his entire life, except for 10 years give or take while he was married or living with a girlfriend. i grew up not having food or proper clothing (gma had custody of me and all 7 of my brothers and sisters) because my uncle would get money for beer, or cigarettes, or gas, or $300 to take a girl out on a date, etc. now my sister has been convincing my gma to let her get out payday loans and she makes up stupid reasons why she needs the money. for example, my sis told gma she needed $150 to go to a horse show, when really she went and got her belly button pierced. (she showed me the piercing) she tells my gma she needed $500 for her dog deposit (a dog that has been at my gma's house making her trip and fall constantly because the dog is always under gma's walker, a dog that is there even though there aren't dogs allowed at the rental house, a dog that has destroyed the house with its chewing and my gma will have to pay to fix all this!!!) and when i confronted her with it, she told my gma to her face that she was a liar, that she never told her it was for the dog, it was for her horse board, even though the horse board had already been paid through another check. my uncle put himself on gma's bank account, and goes and takes money for gambling out whenever he wants. when i showed gma her bank statement that showed that money was being taken out at a casino, she swore she allowed it, even though i could tell she didn't know. how does someone deal with a person who allows this to happen to them and lies to protect them? my uncle could have been arrested a dozen times but my gma lies to the police to keep him out of jail. i just don't understand, yet i am the bad guy because i took her to change her bank account numbers and put a ban on any checks being cashed that are written as 'cash', and for all transactions to go through my email! she think's she's 'helping' my uncle and my sister, and refuses to believe she's being used as a personal atm! even though not a single one of her household bills has been paid since october, i am still the bad guy because i tell her not to give them money! yet she is still 'sane' enough for me to not be able to get guardianship! does getting poa allow me to make financial decisions for her? if i get poa does that mean she can't give money to people without me knowing, and can i prosecute them, even without her permission, if they steal from her?