Mother-in-law is 81 year old and was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia three months ago and Parkinson’s six months ago. My husband has been taking care of her and it has impacted our relationship significantly. He has to be with her all the time because she takes meds 7 times a day and she always forgets. The Carbidopa-Levodopa is tricky because she takes it 3 times a day and she can’t eat one hour before and 30 minutes after and it’s always a battle – she doesn’t understand why she can’t eat.
We want to take time off – 5 days – but she is very attached to my husband. We have a caregiver come in once a week and she barely tolerates the caregiver and will not take the meds from the caregiver and always wants the caregiver to leave.
If we have the caregiver come for 3 hours in the morning and 3 hours in the afternoon, there’s a possibility that she will not let the caregiver in for either shift. Do we give the caregiver a key? This seems to be the most ideal but giving a caregiver a key is risky. Any thoughts on this?
Thank you in advance.