Tips from someone who's been there? My mother is 80, has Alzheimer's and has been in a nursing home for over a year. My mother is neglected. No shower for almost a year, etc. When I brought it up to staff in a very nice way and asked if we could find a solution together, they became defensive. I was yelled at, bullied, etc. They have started sending my mom to the hospital for typical dementia behaviors they are supposed to handle, and which they do handle when other residents do the same thing. Suddenly, she's a "danger to self and others." they send her to the ER where their doctor is on staff. They're trying to make a case against her to cover themselves. How sad.
Those old school nursing home ways are still very much alive. Be warned.
I am now looking for advice from anyone who has moved their loved one from a bad facility. Anything you can offer me as far as "insider tips" or "pitfalls to avoid" will be appreciated.