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Any places in NY/CT/NJ willing to take my Mom?

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My mom has dementia and has reverted back to her native language of Romanian. She forgets she speaks English and the places I looked into to relocate her keep telling me that once she is not able to speak English anymore or wont speak English when prompted they will not be able to keep her. So I feel like I am living under a gun and don't know what to do with her once she is kicked out. I am afraid she will be kicked out.

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What about working through any local Romanian-speaking churches / Social groups? If she is still fairly functional maybe see if any of the local colleges teach Romanian (free tutoring/language practice for students!!!).
She's not the only elder who has Romanian as her mother tongue, she is likely to revert to it as the disease progresses, and it IS important that she be able to communicate for as long as possible.
(alternately, find if any nursing homes or board & care homes in the area have 1-2 Romanian-speaking staff).
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I've seen residents in a nursing home who have one of those boards, or books. They can point at pictures or on an alphabet, spell out something. .... I don't think facilities should not accept a patient who speaks a foreign language! People who have strokes or are unable to speak get placed all the time.
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Kicked out of where? Your profile states she is living at home and you are caring for her. If you are looking for a facility for your Mom moving from a home environment to a nursing home, yes, it will be difficult. Contact your local Alzheimer's Association and Area Office of Aging for guidance. If she is hospitalized for any reason, work with the Discharge Planner/Social Worker for placement.

If she is currently in a nursing home, then no, she can't be "kicked out" solely because of a language barrier. Contact the social worker/Director of Nursing at the facility she is in and ask them how they plan to address your mother's communication issues as her dementia/Alzheimer's progresses. What are they telling you?
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PS. Another responsibility of the NH, in the case that Mom does indeed exceeds the medical level of care the NH can provide, is that the NH has to find a safe facility to transfer Mom to, and within a reasonable distance. Again, they cant transfer anyone legally simply due to language.
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So sorry for you and your mom. I am assuming your mom is in a NH, not specifically stated. It is illegal and immoral for a nursing home to 'kick a resident out'. If your Mom has Medicare/Medicaid, she is guaranteed rights and protections under federal law. The NH administration should by law, be helping to find a suitable facility for transfer, since they claim they cannot care for her. The threat of being kicked out of a NH due to a language barrier ONLY is illegal and the NH CANNOT to that. Please look at medicare.gov to see your Mom's rights, and look into counsel from your ombudsman or eldercare agency. 1/2 the population of my old NH spoke Spanish and we would have had 100 lawsuits if we tried to kick out a non-English speaking resident. There has to be a medical reason for transfer. You and your mom have rights. (Thankfully). I hope everything works out for you, but pls dont feel powerless or hopeless, they cant 'kick her out'...
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We use this technique with non-verbal kids on the Autism Spectrum; it's called PECS. I used something like this with my mom when she had really bad aphasia after her stroke. she still has the card that says "Call my daughter".
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Babalou, that is a wonderful idea!
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I would try to work around the language issue. Make your mom a Picture Exchange Book, or a laminated deck of cards. Bathroom, food, drink, pain, bed, chair, call my daughter.
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I can understand your feeling that way. My thoughts are this person with true Alzheimer’s disease and live long enough will quit speaking altogether. Are you looking for Alzheimer’s disease? I would think you could go to Area Agency for Aging through the county you live in. They can direct you to living situations that will accept and keep her. If you find no answer that way you will be contact National Senior Citizens Law Center these agency will be able to help you they are on line. Neither of these agencies will charges for their services.

I would also like to recognize you for attempting to find a place for your mother; from which you mother will not have to move. Moving is so very hard on the elderly.
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Good point Joann, if mom is on medicaid and you move her to another state you will have to reapply in the new state so just be aware of that.
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