My father has dementia and his wife died a few months ago. Since I live out of state, I have spent weeks and months with him on and off caring for him and putting a care plan in place for when I am not there. He lives in his home with 2 housemates (one is a part-time carer) and has shifts of 3 other care-takers come throughout the week. He gets meals on wheels, has people cooking meals and keeping him company every day. I am his health + finance POA. He does not want to move and his doctors have said that due to his dementia + Alzheimers a big move would not be good for him. Here's the problem: he has 3 other daughters from his 1st marriage (I am from his 2nd marriage). They have been trying to get him to revoke the POA and gain total control. They even called a lawyer in (then claimed HE wanted the lawyer-then when I asked him he said he never called- then again he might not remember if he had). It's a long story, but at the moment my big concern is about phone calls from his daughters and how to handle them. Here's what they are doing: 1. Trying to get him to pay THEIR lawyer bill, even though he already had a lawyer. His housemates heard him reading his credit card # over the phone. They convinced him he needed to pay this bill. 2. They tell him over and over to revoke the Power of Attorney and tried to have the lawyer they hired come and do this last week, but she bowed out once she realized he already had another attorney. When I visited him last week I saw a dozen notes by his phone where they had him write down "revoke power of attorney" several times. Isn't this "undue influence"? 3. His caretaker was at the house trying to get him ready for a routine doctor's appointment. One daughter was on the phone telling him lies that he "shouldn't go with the caretaker because he would be institutionalized." The stress from this call gave him a mini stroke and he spoke gibberish for a few moments, then missed his doctor's visit. Daughters are telling him lies, trying to turn him against me and his caretakers. As a result of these calls, I have told them (with his lawyer's advice) that calls will need to be scheduled and monitored by his caretaker. I also changed his #. This was not an easy move and I am wondering the best way to monitor this situation given that I am not living there myself. I want to keep him safe but obviously, don't want to have to restrict his calls. Would like to hear from any of you with thoughts on this challenging situation.