What does it mean when a person with dementia won't go to sleep?

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My grandmother is 58 almost 59 and she has dementia ; she thinks the people on tv are real ; she never wants to go to sleep ; she'll argue with us when we try to put her to bed ; she'll fold her blanket for the longest ; if we leave her up alone she gets into everything in the kitchen and bathroom ; when i say she doesnt wanna sleep she will put up the biggest fuss ; if she stay up all night she stays up all day too & stands up the whole time this is soooo freakin' overwhelming bc im 7 months pregnant and i feel like at any moment she can harm someone in the house ; i dont know what more to do she's going thru this at such a young age its sooo scary ; please help

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deedyy,
I totally understand your situation. My mom is doing the same thing. It is soooo hard on you. She NEVER stops moving - day or night. Doc's have prescribed all kinds of meds with no success at all. NOTHING slows her down or helps her to sleep. If I could do it all over again, I'm not sure I would take on this overwhelming responsibility. You need sleep too. It got so bad that I drove her to the ER at 2 am and she sat there wide awake (as ALWAYS) and quiet and still as a kitten. Meanwhile I was going crazy. She spent a week there................and came home still moving like crazy and not sleeping.
You have a baby coming...................take care of you and the baby.
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I agree with everything that's been said. You need to do the right thing for both your baby and your grandmother. Your baby needs you to be happy, healthy, and relaxed. You need to start today to find an alternate living arrangement for your grandmother. This should be priority #1 before your baby arrives. If youcan provide more detail ot will help us in suggesting more specific advice.
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Deedyy, Congratulations on your baby due! Please listen to Mallory and Jeanne, that is good advice. You can ill afford the stress right now, and your concern is an accurate assesment of the danger with your grandma. Love her enough to place her immediately so you can get a routine going before the happy occasion. If she is settled then maybe you can look forward to visiting her safely with the baby.
Do not hesitate to do the right thing, it's hard.
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Hey Mallory, where ya been? I remember you.
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deedyy what it means when a person with dementia won't go to sleep is that no one else gets any sleep either. I went through this with my husband. It was absolutely the dealbreaker -- if he couldn't sleep at night I would not be able to keep him home with me. Fortunately his doctors did come up with a solution for us.

When you say "we" try to put her to bed, who do you mean? Can you explain your situation in a little more detail? You might get more specific suggestions.

I agree with malloryg8r. Not matter how much you may love her, carrying for a person with dementia is not a suitable role for a new mother. It is not just about the time it takes but also the stress levels and anxiety and energy drain.

I am so sorry for your grandmother. Dementia is always heartbreaking and it seems especially cruel when it strikes so early. She needs and deserves excellent care -- I just don't think it should be you providing it.

Please give us a more detailed idea of what is going on.
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Are you alone in all this? you shouldn't be the caregiver for your grandma, you are almost a mother yourself, and then you'll be faaaar too busy to deal with a dementia patient. Please do your self, and your baby, the only thing you can do---find someone else to care for grandma, even if that means you move out, or grandma moves out. contact your County Social Services if you need to, but do not become grandma's caregiver, you cannot be doing this now!
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