My mother lives with me and my husband. She has vascular dementia. I work out of the home but Mondays I have to be gone so I have a caregiver come in. Tuesday-Sunday Mom sleeps until 10:30 and doesn't get dressed until 4pm. When she isn't eating she is sleeping. On Monday when caregiver comes, she's up and dressed. The report from the caregiver is that she's laughing, conversing...pretty with it. I'm beginning to feel like chopped liver as I devote almost all my time to her needs and have become housebound. It's taking a toll on my marriage. I feel like Mom has me over a barrel. Today, we missed church once again, my husband went alone (week #5). Mom slept. However, my brother called from out of town to talk with her and she was right as rain. What is going on?