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My husband sits 24/7 in rocker staring out the window. He will not go to his bedroom and go to bed, but no matter when I check on him day or night he is never asleep just staring. Wouldn't his body just go to sleep after so long like normal people??

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Firstly, your husband is not "normal". He is nearing the end of his life. Unless you never sleep, how do you know he is not sleeping? He could be "sleeping" with his eyes open as the brain messages don't get to his muscles in order to close his eyelids. Don't sweat the small stuff, just love him for the time he has remaining. God bless you both.
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Are you sure his dementia is of the Alzheimers type? It sounds more like the behavioral variant of Frontotemporal Dementia. AD medications generally are not right for FTD patients. Please check out the organization AFTD.
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Agree with ferris. Be thankful that this is all he is doing,not roaming, yelling or abusing you. One thing to be aware of is to ask his Dr about his eyes drying out especially if you never see him blink. that could become very painfu la nd cause him to go blind.
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Thank you for your answers, we've been through 3 yrs of wandering in the car and disappearing for days, until they removed his License, then on foot. We went through violence to the extent he threatened me with a gun. The Police were at my house 2-3 times a week. He stolen valuables and hidden them. No I know hes not normal, and I am grateful that all that is behind me and hes now just sitting in one chair and staring. But I was just wondering since he never seems to sleep.
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I sometimes send questions to Alzheimer Association. My husband's speech was the first thing to stop. Many people said that was not normal, he didn't have alz, he was in the last stages. That was 5 years ago. Alz Asso explained it all to me, and I felt much better.
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Could be the drugs he is on that is making him just stair.....Keeping his mind in twilight...
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Thanks for all the suggestions He is not on any medications so that's not the problem he refuses to see a doctor. Our family doctor dropped us because I refused to put him in a Nursing home 2 yrs ago and lose everything. . In the past 3 weeks I talked him into going back to his bed, now he is in it 24/7 just sleeping unless I wake him up for a meal.
He can't figure out how to use silver ware and tears his food apart with his fingers, but will not allow me to cut it up for him.
Anyone have any suggestion for me?? I am about to implode, I was one whos terrific job took them on the road every day and I was a very social person I hated being in one place very long. I haven't been out of this house except for errands for 3 yrs. My day starts at 6 am and I do nothing but work on the house, land, pets and deal with an difficult hateful husband.I can't think about anything but that I just want to walk out the door and slam it behind me!!
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Maddie, it must be sooo difficult.

Oh, Maddie, how I wish I could talk people into spending some of their money to hire care givers. (You indicate you have some to lose because you mention not wanting to lose everything.) It's time to lose SOME and hire an in-home companion once a week or twice a month. You will be amazed at the difference that will make in your life.

If there's an adult daycare provider in your area, look into it. Mom's is $57/day with a nutritious dinner-type lunch. $53 if you pack it for him -- which might be smart because of his tendency to eat with his hands.

See an elder care attorney about protecting YOUR part of your assets; and spend HIS. You are only saving HIS portion for Medicaid. That makes no sense at all. There are things that can be done . . . but it must be done in advance of applying. Like, that'd be NOW.
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