Point being I thought people suffering from dementia changed their minds and their moods all the time and forgot things. My mother has decided again that I've done something horrible to her and I'm holding her hostage IN HER OWN HOUSE. She keeps saying "I hope you go back to being nice" and when I tell her I'm not doing anything and try to change the subject I've tried all the "how to deal with your demented parent". Changing the subject, being nice, leaving the room for an hour or two and wait for her to 'change' if only for a moment. It doesn't work anymore. She still has this big grudge against me for all I've done wrong and stubbornly sits there like a pouty storm cloud. . She accuses ME of creating tension in the house. Last night I was eating dinner and she goes "I hope you stop this". I'm like "I'm not doing anything I'm eating dinner". She says "I'm talking about before." I guess she blames me for her dementia. We've been having live ins since my surgery 7 wks ago and everyone of them just shakes their head. One even asked her to please stop because I wasn't doing anything. (of course she's gone because according she was horrible and said horrible things to her) What do I do when everything I've tried doesnt' work?