Aside from other many problems I'm facing trying to care for my mother, there is one that is absolutely extenuating. Despite her sickness and her constant complaints about severe pain in all her body, she keeps looking for and finding things to do around the house that require a lot of effort, almost meant to be done by several men due to heavy weights to lift, risk etc. Activities vary from heavy duty gardening I.e. Pulling out trees (big trees) and planting new ones, lifting heavy rocks, cutting branches of mature trees (machete required, like in the wild), trying to "organize" and clean up, which means lifting heavy boxes, several TVs (she does not like to throw away things so things are buried under heavy stuff, etc, etc, etc. Need to mention too that we are in Central America where the heat is not something to play around with. Since I moved with her, about ten months now to take care of her, I feel I just joined this hurricane-like life. There are very few "good" days, and by good I mean normal. The rest are either her feeling truly bad, or her feeling better and therefore working like slaves, or her mad at me for whatever reason that I cannot make sense of. I should say she is really always mad at me, saying things like she wishes she had a daughter like such and such..while I'm thinking that I'm sure there are no many other people that could even last more than two weeks. I'm committed to be with her until the end, but I'm realizing the end might be my end. She does engage heavily in the work she wants to do and I've realized it's better not to tell her to stop or suggest that it is too hot or that it is really not necessary; all those words fuel her to do more. It is like an spirit of contradiction. So I have no choice but to do it with her so she doesn't do the worse parts or as much, and the few days that a lady comes to help around the house I kind of let her be the helper instead of me, but then my mother gets even madder at me because that means I don't care nor take care of her. In all honesty I'm getting tired, very tired. Tired inside, in my heart also my body, sad and resenting her terribly because I know my mom, so I know she's been like this all her life and it is not something related to dementia or anything like that. I left the house when I was 27 when I got married (now divorced) so I'm now living with her after many years of not remembering how bad is bad. My mom refuses to seek any medical help, yet throws at me comments that are meant to tell me that other daughters really take care of their mothers including taking them to the doctor. When I have asked and even begged or even used reverse psychology to convince her to seek medical attention I have failed every time. I know I'm not perfect, but I also know I'm making a supreme effort to ignore the mean comments and actions and be kind and loving to her. I have not said anything out of place no matter how much she has pushed. But this thing with the heavy physical activity..what to do?? One day we both will faint or something worse, and no one will find us until days later, seriously!!