Why is it every time I go to my parents doctors thier grand advice to me is "wow you have your hands full" or "are you ready to give up yet. My wife and I care for both my parents full time. My mother has vascular dementia and is wheelchair bound and my father has ALZ and a bipolar disorder. For the past year and a half we have taken them to a little over 200 doctors appointments and the advice we always get is the same. "Give up". My parents have been married for 61 years and don't want to go to a nursing home. They are both enrolled in the geriatric assesment program and every time they ask me "Are you ready to throw your hands up yet" I have no help or support from other siblings. So when we go to the doctors do we look for support and advice.