My mother is, to say the least, a non-compliant patient. Among other things, she is elderly, diabetic, anorexic, and depressed. She is a master of manipulating her care-giving staff, pitting staff against each other, and lying to get her way. She has reached a critical point in her health, in that if she doesn’t eat more, and eat proper balanced diet, she will have to have her foot amputated. She does not believe her family, her doctors, or her care givers when we tell her this, but believe that we are simply threatening her with amputation so we can get our way. At this point, she is supposedly of sound mind, so technically the care givers can’t force her to do anything, but only suggest better choices. Recently her blood sugar has been spiking near 500, so we have suspected that she had a stash of candy. One of her caregivers, a woman who has been working with my mother for more than 10 years, became so frustrated that she went through every drawer and closet until she found the candy stash, which was evidently astronomical. The nurse took the candy, and has since then regretted her decision. When she called certain family members to apologize, we told her that we supported her 100% and she should feel free to take and candy she finds in the house. I can certainly understand that this is a gray area, and that elderly patients should retain privacy, but should they retain privacy at the expense of their health? Blood sugar spikes are so damaging, and while my mother refuses to believe that, the caregivers know it to be true, and are negligent if they do not at least report the candy to a family member. My mother is distraught and seriously depressed at the loss of her freedom and privacy, but honestly, every choice she makes is a bad one, and I don’t know what else to do but to beg the caregivers to prevent her from making these choices, even if it makes them uncomfortable. The choice to gorge on candy is not the only bad one; she also refuses to drink water, refuses to eat enough (she only weight 79lbs), refuses dietary supplements such as ensure, refuses to stop drinking cokes, refuses to follow a typical diabetic diet…the list goes on and on. Is it wrong for the caregivers to force her to make better choices?