My husband has always been a calm and pleasant person. He is now in the middle stage of Alzheimers and at times has pushed me or yelled at me. It is usually a very brief incident but something he never did in 50:years of marriage. I am now nervous that he will become aggressive. What has anyone done to calm a loved one.
Keep in mind each medications can have side effects. Most likely they will make him a fall risk.
Now...you...
If at ANYTIME you feel that your safety is at risk call 911. Do not hesitate. If you are at risk of getting hurt LEAVE the room.
If something happens to YOU who will care for you? Who will care for both of you while you heal? And there is the possibility of him inflicting a fatal injury on you pushing you down the stairs come to mind. (By the way if there are any weapons in the house LOCK them up. this includes kitchen knives)
Another thought...most facilities will not accept a resident that has had a violent outburst in the past 60 to 90 days. So if placing him is ever a possibility keep that in mind.
When I was caring for my Husband I said I would keep him home as long as it was safe for ME to care for him at home and as long as it was safe for HIM for me to care for him. For many people there is a "line in the sand" of what they will or will not do, what they can or can not do. for me it was safety.
You should take his aggression seriously because he could suddenly become more aggressive, and you may not be expecting it. Such as yanking your head back by your hair and causing you neck injuries (really happened but not to me). Such as doing something you never expected, like grabbing you in the car while you're driving (really happened).
Be prepared for anything. FYI, aggression is a major reason for moving dementia patients into a care facility where staff is trained to handle it and medical care to suppress incidents is available 24/7 to handle an outburst.
I calmed mine by getting a Restraining Order and divorce. Please be careful.