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My partner is rejecting me with cruelty. Any advice?

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He doesn't want me around him. He was diagnosed with a pâncreas cancer, it was very hard, i NEVER let him. I love him. But he doesn t want me anymore. He rejected me after 40 days with him in hospital. He rejects me in a very mean way. What is This?

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After knowing each for about 10yrs my partner & George got together in May 2012, whilst property settlement took over 2 yrs we thought we had all the time in the world. May 26 this yr 14 a v healthy man was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, because now he feels he has nothing to offer me & insists I move on, he has gone back to 'board' with his 'wife' whom he lived as brother/sister for last 30yrs. We bought this house house in one day Sept 2013 we loved it, now because it represents his future he does not want to be here - I just cant handle this. We are late 60's - I just want to look after him, I love him so much- I just cant seem to hope with this. My family is great support also lifeline etc, soetimes I just ont know what to do anymore - why wont he be here with me
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Sometimes the cancer travels throughout the body, and can get to the brain. My dad did this to my mother when he had liver cancer. Patience.... patience, and give him space. My friend's dad just passed away with cancer, he wanted to see everyone. My dad was opposite... It is very personal, and do not take it personally...Easier to say than do... Take care. It's NOT YOU, it's the cancer...HE DOESN'T mean it. Just know you are doing your best and both are going through the motion...Talk with his hospice caretaker, they are there to help.....Wonderful people, can't say enough good things about HOSPICE.....
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Filipa, I am so sorry. The only thing you can do is follow his wishes and let him know that you will be there if he ever needs you.
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Filipa, any way this goes down you are in for a lot of hurt. Watching him die will be very painful. Being pushed away is very painful.

I don't have any advice, just sincere sympathy. I am so sorry you both are going through this.
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I also wonder if he's trying to make it easy on you by pushing you out of his life. Pancreatic cancer is a hard way to go...so maybe he is trying to protect you from having to deal with that pain. Is his a very different behavior for him? How long have you been together? Does he have family?
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Maybe he is protecting you by rejection? Dying is very personal.
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