Partner accused me of moving things deliberately when I know that he moved them but confronting him makes him angry. Advice?

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Alzheimer's takes an average of 12 to 15 years in average. But it is divided in several phases. One of those phases is that they do various things, forget it instantly and then deny having done this. The only way to pass through this phase without too many troubles is either not to start asking about it, or when you ask your partner why he did this or that, and he denies it categorically, becomes angry etc.. then just drop the matter, and say : Oh, yes now I remember, I have done it, or anyone else living in the family. Another possibility is to immediately start talking about something totally different. But never, never, never start a discussion on such items. Putting him with his nose to things he did, and which HE CAN NOT remember is only the start of a big war. And that is what is to be avoided at all price. Hope this info is of help to you.
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Just ignore it, it is not worth it. Those with dementia will forget. My mother who lives with us does this constantly. I used to look for everything that was misplaced, but not I try to say something reassuringly and change the topic. She usually forgets. On occasion, I will search for something missing. It is best not to get in a power struggle. Just say that could have happened and switch the subject. Good Luck!
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Then don't confront him. Does he have dementia? Insisting that he moved the items will only agitate him. If his thinking that you moved the item from point A to point B keeps the peace then allow him to think that.
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