My parents are (90 & 87). I am 6 hours away from them. We have toured several facilities that were nice, but they can't seem to pull the trigger. They are doing fine, but are getting more frail & Dad's eye site is poor due to macular degeneration. Both are hard of hearing & Mom uses a cane and has a had a stroke. Both have heart disease. Dad is an Olympic grade worrier over EVERYTHING, such as how are we going to move? What do we do with all this stuff? How do I get my prescriptions filled, etc. Despite multiple reassurances from the facility representative & me about those things, he can't make the decision. Also he's afraid they will run out of money, "then what"? Again, multiple reassurances that they won't be thrown out into the street. I have had someone coming into the house once a week for 4 hours for household help. It started out well, but lately there have been staff changes & the current person is not responsible. I told them that we will find another agency, but they are doom & gloom that the same thing will happen again. I've looked into obtaining benefits from the VA, but they won't help unless they need help with eating, bathing, dressing, etc. They are not at that point yet. Also, the vet has to have few assets. They have more in savings than the VA allows. They live in a townhouse (that's paid for) so there's no lawn work, heavy home maintenance, etc. But I worry about their safety constantly.