Last blow up, that could have been avoided, was a hospitalization due to mom’s not wanting to call a doctor (has several) to get essential medication. Father supports her every whim and knew she needed it, but won’t speak up to her to insist she deal with it. (He’s too deaf to make call himself.)
Even the visiting nurse offered to deal with the medication refill!
So then we’re stuck with an unnecessary, emergency situation due to her stubbornness.
How do we address this? They typically won’t listen - or act on our suggestions.