My mom with dementia just told my adult son, who is home between college terms, that she had a heart attack in the night. He, in turn, called me right away here at work. She took her nitro for angina, and apparently that took care of it (for now). When my son asked her why she didn't let someone know since there are three of us at home to help, her response was, "When it's your time to go, it's your time to go. And I didn't want to worry your mother (meaning me)." (No, it's much better to freak out other members of the family with the flip announcement you've had a heart attack.) I have called her PCP for direction since we know she has the angina, and the nitro seems to work.
I have told her before she has to let me know when these things happen so I can get her the care she needs. And I have told her if she can't or won't let me know when she is having medical issues, we can't have her living at our home anymore.
Has anyone else run into this behavior?