I have a 73 year o!d mother who has made herself almost completely immobi!e by refusing to take prescribed pain medication for arthritis as directed and refusing to stay active. She is over weight and all she wants to do is sit in her chair and watch TV and wants my family to take care of her, clean her house and do her household chores. I have a husband who works 10 hour days, a part time job myself, and a 10 year old with Autism and an 18 year old at home. I am frustrated beyond belief with her "can't do" attitude and refusal to put any real effort into helping herself remain independent. She says she cannot afford assisted living and I don't think she wznts anyone in her house. Looking for options on how to help without "enabling" her victim mentality and keep myself sane in the process. I have already gotten the huge guilt trip for not calling her every day to see what we can "do for her today." Suggestions anyone????