This isn't about POA or guardianship but I couldn't find a more appropriate category.
How do you deal with a parent with gambling problems? My dad has been going to the local casino for about 20 years. The way he's always described it, he wins as much as he loses. Which I didn't believe but I didn't think it was all that bad. That he had some sense about it. For a year, I made him write down how much he won or lost every time he went. It didn't seem all that bad, he said he lost about $5,000 a year. I found out that the casino would hand out a win/loss statement for the asking. I had asked my dad about this a few times before but he said they didn't. Well..... I went and asked for the last year's. He lost much more than $5,000. He lost everything he got from social security and then some. Over the years, he must have lost well into the mid 6 figures. As in half million. It's more money than he currently has in the bank. When I confronted him with this, his response was "Why did you have to look?"
He doesn't have dementia and seems to understand the loss. He just doesn't care. So what can I do to try to blunt this behavior. I can't get guardianship since he is lucid about it just stupid. I don't even want to try. He's an adult. It's his money. But still.... I feel like I should do something about all this. Is it none of my business and I should just let it go or should I do something about it. I tried limiting his visits and the amount of money he loses per visit but he cheats. He'll tell me he only loses $50 when it's really $400.