I've noticed in recent years my mom really does this "stating the obvious" thing. Example: The other day we were at my inlaws for a visit and my mother-in-law (who can hear well and has no dementia) asked about our (my husband and mine's) new cat. We showed a picture and said her name was Frida. My mom cuts in and starts saying it's a German girl's name. (This is something my inlaws would know.) My mom does stuff like this all the time, though, and it gets annoying, to be frank about it. She'll tell someone she traveled somewhere (England for example) and say stuff like, they speak English there, but with it's not with an American accent. All kinds of obvious things. I don't know why she's like this. She's always thought she was smarter and more sophisticated than just about everyone. On top of that she has this weird thing where she thinks people should do stuff for her. Not shopping, but for example she's not born and raised in America, so she complains that people never wanted to learn her language as a way to get closer to her. (I'm decent in her native language and she has friends from the old country so she gets to speak it pretty often). But she'll complain that Americans don't want to know or learn her language (for her?). My take is, if I moved to Germany, France, Spain, wherever, I expect to speak the native language since it's part of the adjustment. I'm in their world, they're not moving into mine. Another odd thing: She'll say weird borderline racist stuff to people. She'll mention to black people that her daughter voted for Obama. Some people have responded with a "oh, that's nice," or just shrugged it off, but others have been offended. I tell my mom, that's a weird, wrong thing to say, and she'll just go, "Oh, they love to hear that!" I don't agree: She doesn't go and tell white people who her kids have voted for! On the flipside, she is a native German, if someone were to assume she's a Nazi because she's old and German, she'd be furious. If I point that out to her, followed with hey, how about we don't make assumptions based on skin color or a person's homeland, I'm labeled a jerk. Is there a way to work around this or is this a trend among others with aging parents?