I am an only child and moved my mother from out of state 6 months ago to be close to use as I am expecting my first child and also because she could no longer keep her house as her neighborhood was deteriorating. She misses her house, the couple of friends she had as well as very nice neighbors but still spent a lot of time alone. Now she lives in a beautiful apartment 5 minutes from us and has everything you can imagine in walking/short driving distance from her - grocery stores, senior center, churches, lively downtown, etc.. I have spent so much time trying to integrate her into the community that I have neglected my own affairs, all while being pregnant and working full time. I have searched for local churches, senior centers, even found a small teaching job ( 3 hours a week) I know she would love and she says no to everything. I offer to go with her to activities so she doesn't feel awkward at first and in the end she ends up refusing to go. All she wants to do is find a reason to come to our house every day to do housework which I appreciate but she's using that as an excuse not to live her own life. When I want to spend time alone with my husband or see a friend alone, she either becomes very sad, gives me a guilt trip, or wants to tag along but I need time away from her as well. I also spend a lot of time driving her around for errands because she says she's afraid to drive in a new area. She can still drive but says she is afraid although she doesn't need to drive more than a couple of miles to anything she needs. I offered to drive with her to the key places she needs to go using a GPS and she always says no. I need time for my own life and can never do anything without feeling guilty about it. She is perfectly capable of making a phone call, driving and making connections but she doesn't want to help herself. I can only lead her to things but cannot force her. Initially she will say yes to trying new things but then never does anything about it. What is really frustrating is that she then complains how lonely she is and has nothing to do when she could fill up her days with really nice activities. This has been a huge burden on me and it's becoming increasingly difficult for me to run around so much for her as I am 8 months pregnant and very tired. She also comes by a lot without calling and this upsets my husband. We are also helping her financially and I feel like the least she could do is make an effort to help herself. I don't mind helping her out but what hurts is that she refuses to create her own life and then turns around and says how horrible her life is. I'm really worried when the baby is here that she will be here all the time and use the baby as another excuse not do do anything for herself. I really spend a lot of time with her (almost too much) so she doesn't feel alone but I cannot be her only social outlet. This is starting to stress me out so much that I cannot sleep and feel depressed. It's also affecting my marriage as I feel the need to talk about it to my husband all the time but he is becoming very annoyed at how much of a toll this has taken on me. I really want her to be happy, make friends and feel better but she is not making an effort. I know this takes time but she's not making any effort. What can I do?