Thinks she can't have something, wants it more. The facility receives her SS and a pension check. She is allowed a specific amt. for personal use and often calls my sister or me to purchase toiletry items. There have been meetings with discussions regarding her finances where she's been included and she refuses advice or assistance in handling them. I'm out of state, so the burden of her actions is basically on my sister. We're interested in ideas of how to approach her on the subject without her becoming defensive which brings out her stubbornness and anger. The facility says they have no authority to *budget* her spending if she wants to spend her money. However, whenever she doesn't have the personal funds, my sister is called that she needs pads, or hair spray or lipstick, etc. We need a new approach to this situation.