Recently my mother was put into a nursing home by her POA (which is not me.) I was not contacted or even asked about it other than if I could take care of her at her place. Which due to my circumstances is out of the question. So the POA and mother decided where she would be placed at. I have NEVER had to deal with seeing anyone in an nursing home before and quite honestly, I expected far better than seeing people hanging out in their doorways, complaining about this or that, constantly on their call buttons, no room to have much of anything in a room that has another patient in it. They seem to take care of her, but for the life of me I am just flat out upset. I have been there twice. The day after she got there and tonight. How do you deal with seeing your parent (that you were not close to. She is my adoptive mother.) in that type of environment? I knew I was not to expect Club Med but it upset me to no end that we have to provide a phone for her and a TV. Thankfully she had a smaller flat panel one, but she has room enough for her bed and one small chair. Plus a few shelves above her head like she can get to them. She will be 90 this August. Does the shock ever wear off? Do you ever get used to that whole scene? Every time I walk in there, it reminds me of having to go see my alcoholic/abusive step-father that we had to institutionalize in a VA hospital after he had a stroke and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. It is seriously making me have nightmares and my PTSD is really causing me issues because of the flashbacks of me walking down those halls and seeing those patients.