76 year old parent who will NOT allow assessment or go to Dr. to discuss; dumps doctors that want them to be evaluated, says spouse (my other parent) and I are crazy; lashes out daily, verbally abusive, accuses spouse of cheating, accuses me of lying and taking sides. Accuses us of getting into computers, phones, etc. that we have no passwords to access. Refuses to get help or deal with losing memory, losing reasoning. Getting lost while driving. Accused staff people in the hospital last year of stealing phone and getting into it. Can’t remember bank accounts or passwords. Messing up finances. Snooping and sneaking all of the time. Will not share medical
info. Argues incessantly. Exhibits narcissistic-type personality traits and behaviors. Cannot get through to them. Situation is getting impossible with no diagnosis and a complete refusal to acknowledge what is going on with them. I tried to confront and that went south fast. Now runs around telling everyone how terrible I am. Sends me nasty text messages at all hours of the night. Doesn’t go to bed at night - sleeps all day then sits on FB all night. Acting like nothing is wrong - it’s all us. Had stroke many years ago; wondering if this causes it too? Complete personality change. Definitely depressed and hateful but then will turn around and be very nice. Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde. A lot of ups and downs and seems like an addiction to drama. Family is at a loss. Their friends don’t see it yet so we are left to deal and cope on our own. How do you manage during this time period when they out right REFUSE to deal with reality, accept or ask for help but then consequences of an inability to make appropriate decisions fall on us? They have been scammed by predators, send money to people who are scamming, cheating on their spouse through these scams and just a whole host of other problems that go on and on and on. I think what makes this the worst is that they are still pretty functioning. I wouldn’t say high function but pretty close. I’m at a loss and appreciate anyone’s advice or insight if you’ve been through this too. Is this dementia? Thanks in advance - really exasperated and I think it’s only the beginning.