My Mom has "cognitive decline" termed by her Dr, but not termed Alzheimer's. She is on Aricept and Mematine but was living alone and able to take care of herself until what we believe was a fall that she didn't report. She went downhill quickly forgetting to eat and take her meds. We got her to the hospital where she was for three days. She started eating and of course they gave her meds. She went to rehab late today and I don't have a clue as to where to start. Her diagnosis is Failure to Thrive and I know they are going to give her physical therapy. She is miserable, lonely, crying that she just wants to go back to her house. I know others have been through this and just need advice on how to deal with her heartbreak, as well as how to work through the system to get information in a timely manner without being seen as a "bother" to the staff. What should I ask? I already saw and corrected that the hospital sent over a list of meds that included two that she hasn't taken in years. No one had asked me and it just happened that I went to the front intake desk and saw the list. I just got through having to be forceful in the hospital since they were not giving me any information unless I paged the Dr four times before he responded (and that was in three hours - not as if I expected him to respond in 15 minutes), found the nurses were not giving my Mom her glaucoma eye drops at night even though I had gone over her medications with her and an initial Dr.
So, where do I start to be Mom's advocate without becoming an adversary to the staff? I have no clue about the process and everyone seemed to be too busy to take the time with me.