My father-in-law is currently covered under Medicare for a 90 day stint in a nursing home for physical therapy/rehab. He is complaining that they "get him up" and he just wants to sleep, doesn't want to eat (they have him on an anti-depressant and an appetite stimulate in addition to his other meds) and he will not use his walker when going to the bathroom. He wants someone to lift him up, one or two people drag him to the toilet, wait 10-15 minutes and then haul him off the toliet again with him either fighting you the entire time or not even helping to pull some of his own weight.
My husband and him had a come to Jesus meeting tonight and he was told he has 2 months left and then everything is out-of-pocket. We have priced what it would cost for an aid from an agency to sit with him 24/7 and it is actually less expensive than a facility however, he has only enough savings to pay for 2 months. I am guessing after that, they will take the house.
What happens if a person's pension is over the amount to qualify for Medicaid? Does he get moved to a less expensive facility?
My husband is power of attorney, but I am guessing my father-in-law could still sign himself out when his stay is over and go home. He told my husband tonight that he can't afford help and expects him to take care of him. My husband works full time plus and was already doing 4 visits a day to his dad's house in addition to visiting nurses, one assistant, one volunteer. My father-in-law says that that was just not enough.
There is no other family that can help. We unfortunately are it and if he moves in with us, I will have 90% of the responsibility of him and I am in acute renal failure with other health problems and cannot lift and take care of him.
Since my husband is POA, can he be held legally responsible if he father chooses to go home and he doesn't essentially move in with him?
My father-in-law has drawn an excellent pension for over two decades and the majority of it has been blown on gambling and playing big-shot. We have already said we are not taking our daughter's college fund to pay for better care.
Can my husband be forced to legally take him in or move in with him?