My son is turning 7. My mom is 84 and has lived with us for 14 months. I am an only child and mom thinks she was a perfect mother, but she never really spent time with me and before my son wa born, rarely talked with me. What she wants is most important and does not think I am capable of doing anything. My son is very normal, active and "all boy". She yells at him most of the time and thinks he should just sit or take a nap. She sleeps 19-20 hours a day and say she is still exhausted. She just had a sleep study, but we don't have the results yet. Occasionally she will clean the dirty dishes off of the table, load and unload the dishwasher and set plates on the table. I give her her meds to take, do laundry, put food away, cook, shop, take care of my son, and try to wrok 25 hours per week. She has had numerous health issues and I've missed several days of work to take her to dr. appointments. She feels that she worked hard her life, so she deserves to just sleep now. She always felt she should just do what her parents said, though she still complains about it, and thinks I should too, she always has. I waited many years for my son and had him thanks to modern medical technology. I am 59, a single mom by choice, and very proud to have my son and want to be able to keep up with him, but mom's attitude and her moaning all of the time and spending sometimes up to 1/2 hour at a time in our one bathroom moaning, just exhausts me. She is also hard of hearing and spent a fortune on her hearing aids, but seldom wears them due to sleeping so much. She is on medicine for dementia, but is usually right with it. If I forget something, trying to think of a dozen things at one time, she'll make a remark like she's not the one with alzheimers. Due to a deal mom made with me that put me in debt, she has helped me financially, but now with her here my bills have gone up and she hasn't given me any extra money. So between missing work and paying for meals when we go out of town for doctors, it really straps me. I'd rather spend it on my son. She still owns her house and at this time doesn't want to sell it, so I don't think assisted living is possible at this time and not sure if that would help or create more work for me. I don't want to lose or mess up my son's childhood, though I feel I responsible of mom. I want to talk to an elder lawyer, but not sure how to find a good one. Any suggestions or thoughts would be appreciated, but anyway thank you for letting me rant. .