my mother is 83 with moderate cognitive memory loss, 94 lbs no other health issues and we have just found out she has a malignant tumor on her right kidney. All contained on that kidney. She is not in any pain but urinates every 15 minutes. Her urologist wants to remove this kidney and ureter tube laporisopically. He states that she will be in the hospital for about a day and a half. She resides at an assisted living facility near my home. I am certainly prepared to be there with her for about a week all day along with home health nurses to make sure she recovers well. My concern is what kind of quality of life she will have after the surgery and the effect the anesthesia will have on her.
Anyone had a parent that this has happened to? Really struggling with whether or not to leave the kidney and tumor alone. I am going to call her internist tomorrow and ask that she contact the urologist and give me her honest opinion whether she would have her 83 year old Mother go through this surgery.